It can be difficult to know how to talk to your friends, family or a health professional about self-harm. But many people feel more supported and less alone after talking to someone.
Do
find someone you can trust – such as a close friend, family member, trained volunteer or health professional
decide on the right time or place to talk to someone – it may feel easier to write something down, talk online or call and practise what you want to say first
let the person know that what you're sharing may be a shock to them, but you're looking for help – ask to continue the conversation another time if the other person feels distressed or you're interrupted
try to talk honestly and openly – be clear about how you're feeling, why you're asking for help and things they may be able to do
let the other person ask questions – but do not feel you have to answer them all right now
decide if you want to show the other person any injuries or scars – if you're talking to a health professional they may want to check if you need treatment
Further information and support
The mental health charity Mind has more information on how to talk to someone, on their website:
- Mind: talking to friends and family about your mental health
- Mind: talking to a GP about your mental health
